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Nearly 6 Million Jobs Have Been Lost in the Last 17 Months — How and Why I Do Not Feel Like Such a Statistic

Recently, I was informed that my position was eliminated due to tough economic times. Despite being mentally prepared given the rolling downsizing events in my firm, I still was hoping against hope that my job was safe. The call came so late in the day that I had a sudden tightness in my chest when I saw the paperwork pile sitting in front of the HR director. My young sons’ college nest eggs evaporated in my mind and I was dazed. Immediately, the bad news hit the grapevine or “ether”-net as we call it in my industry. Suddenly droves of folks were stopping me in the hallway, asking questions in disbelief and shock. My gut reaction was to instantly reassure them this was a good chance at new possibilities. The questions were the same over and over again.


So wearing my business hat, how could I communicate the same information to keep everyone on the same page without talking myself hoarse and losing my focus? Use a tool from my marketing arsenal and post up a Frequently Asked Questions sheet (FAQs) outside my office. This really empowered me and made me feel that I had control over the floods of questions/concerns on people’s minds. Taking control of my situation was instrumental in NOT feeling like a statistic. PLUS, it created a uniformity of understanding about my unique situation.


So here are the FAQs that I posted physically outside my office wall. These FAQs seemed to satisfy the question seekers and yielded me some peace to focus on my next steps in becoming an EMPLOYMENT statistic. I owned my situation, rather than it owning me. Feeling empowered this early in the job loss situation was instrumental in my well-being and positive outlook to move forward!


Jane Allerton’s FAQs


Q: Is it true that you are part of this downsizing?

A. Yes, you heard correctly, but it is a good chance for new things.


Q: When is your last day?

A: As with everyone else in this wave of downsizing, it will be next Friday.


Q: What’s your plan of action and next steps?

A: I am seeking a variety of possibilities including contract work both internally and externally in NY or by virtual commuting. I have a schedule mapped out for every day for employment seeking. Also, I am considering retraining and certifications in other skill set areas.


Q: Why don’t you spend more time with your young sons now?

A: Evan and Owen count on me to support their livelihoods 100%. Thus, work is a must for me.


Q: Aren’t you angry, after 10 years of 60-hour workweeks, at being let go?

A: No, rather I am saddened leaving my beloved colleagues and customers; however, for me, this is now an OPPORTUNITY!

What would your FAQs look like?


Have you recently faced a layoff, too? Get advice for moving forward from our special report, “Laid Off -- Now What? 

Nearly 6 Million Jobs Have Been Lost in the Last 17 Months — How and Why I Do Not Feel Like Such a Statistic

Recently, I was informed that my position was eliminated due to tough economic times. Despite being mentally prepared given the rolling downsizing events in my firm, I still was hoping against hope that my job was safe. The call came so late in the day that I had a sudden tightness in my chest when I saw the paperwork pile sitting in front of the HR director. My young sons’ college nest eggs evaporated in my mind and I was dazed. Immediately, the bad news hit the grapevine or “ether”-net as we call it in my industry. Suddenly droves of folks were stopping me in the hallway, asking questions in disbelief and shock. My gut reaction was to instantly reassure them this was a good chance at new possibilities. The questions were the same over and over again.


So wearing my business hat, how could I communicate the same information to keep everyone on the same page without talking myself hoarse and losing my focus? Use a tool from my marketing arsenal and post up a Frequently Asked Questions sheet (FAQs) outside my office. This really empowered me and made me feel that I had control over the floods of questions/concerns on people’s minds. Taking control of my situation was instrumental in NOT feeling like a statistic. PLUS, it created a uniformity of understanding about my unique situation.


So here are the FAQs that I posted physically outside my office wall. These FAQs seemed to satisfy the question seekers and yielded me some peace to focus on my next steps in becoming an EMPLOYMENT statistic. I owned my situation, rather than it owning me. Feeling empowered this early in the job loss situation was instrumental in my well-being and positive outlook to move forward!


Jane Allerton’s FAQs


Q: Is it true that you are part of this downsizing?

A. Yes, you heard correctly, but it is a good chance for new things.


Q: When is your last day?

A: As with everyone else in this wave of downsizing, it will be next Friday.


Q: What’s your plan of action and next steps?

A: I am seeking a variety of possibilities including contract work both internally and externally in NY or by virtual commuting. I have a schedule mapped out for every day for employment seeking. Also, I am considering retraining and certifications in other skill set areas.


Q: Why don’t you spend more time with your young sons now?

A: Evan and Owen count on me to support their livelihoods 100%. Thus, work is a must for me.


Q: Aren’t you angry, after 10 years of 60-hour workweeks, at being let go?

A: No, rather I am saddened leaving my beloved colleagues and customers; however, for me, this is now an OPPORTUNITY!

What would your FAQs look like?


Have you recently faced a layoff, too? Get advice for moving forward from our special report, “Laid Off -- Now What? 

How to Give Yourself Permission to Fail

Fear of failure.

It’s one of the major causes of inaction, procrastination, the obsession with perfection, and a host of other issues.

People are afraid to fail.

If they fail, they think their self esteem might drop, they might feel humiliated, embarrassed, lose self confidence - the reasons for the fear are many.

But fear it no more because you’re going to learn how to rid of it by giving yourself permission to fail.

So how do you go about exactly doing that?

Realize this.

YOU ARE GOING TO FAIL.

It’s inevitable, BUT MORE IMPORTANTLY:

IT’S NATURAL.

I CANNOT EMPHASIZE THIS ENOUGH.

IT IS NATURAL FOR YOU TO FAIL.

I really hate to break it to you but you are NOT PERFECT.

Neither am I.

And since YOU, the SOURCE of all your actions is imperfect - it ONLY MAKES SENSE that your actions will in turn, BE IMPERFECT AS WELL.

It makes NO sense for you to expect your actions to be perfect, if the source from which they stem from, which is you in your entirety, is imperfect.

It makes no sense whatsoever.

Our actions HAVE TO BE IMPERFECT BECAUSE WE ARE IMPERFECT.

Really think about.

Really let that sink in.

Then feel all that weight get lifted off your shoulders.

Feel that chill run down your spine.

You’ve just taken one of the biggest steps you can in giving yourself permission to fail.

The second point I want to make is this.

It’s UNNATURAL to assume you’ll hit what you’re aiming for 100% the first time.

It’s unnatural to assume you can go DIRECTLY from point A to point B in a PURE, SINGLE, STRAIGHT LINE fashion with no mistakes represented as jagged edges or zig zags.

It’s unnatural.

Nothing is straight.

Nothing.

Things just appear straight – from afar.

You can find the straightest razor blade on the planet, but look at it under a microscope – it’s not straight.

Nothing in nature is straight.

Nothing in the universe is straight.

And neither will your efforts be.

You journey from point A to point B will not be straight.

It will be jagged.

It will zig zag.

It will go up and down.

And all that’s what helps you get to where you want to be.

You give yourself permission to fail, take some sort of action and fail.

You didn’t get to Point B from that one action.

And you’re not crushed at all because you expect it.

You don’t give up, curse yourself, beat yourself up over the failure.

It’s natural.

You are imperfect, therefore your actions are imperfect.

But you did something and you look at what happened as a result. You get the feedback and then you do something else based on that feedback.

You fail again.

But that’s ok.

It’s natural.

To be expected.

It’s as natural as you breathing.

You did something, failed, and you look at what happened as a result. You get that feedback and then you do the next step accordingly with respect to not just that feedback, but the feedback from the first failure too.

Rinse and repeat.

You will fail again and again and again as you should, and with each of those failures, you slowly gain information from the feedback that you BUILD UPON EXPONENTIALLY so you get closer and closer to Point B faster and faster.

The edges aren’t as jagged or zig zaggy anymore.

It’s beginning to smooth out.

But the journey will never be straight.

No journey ever is.

No plane, ship, car, bike, or tricycle ever travels in a straight line.

Ever.

The driver is ALWAYS constantly adjusting course.

And that’s how they all inevitably get from Point A to Point B.

Give yourself permission to fail by realizing that it’s natural for you to fail.

It’s as natural as you breathing.

You are imperfect, therefore your actions will be imperfect.

Realize also that it’s NOT natural for you to go from point A to point B in one swift straight line.

It’s natural for the journey to be all over the place at first, but with time, it will get smoother, as long as you course correct based on the feedback you get.

Things in the beginning will not look straight at all simply because you’re too close to it in the beginning. You notice everything, every little detail and mishap.

But as time goes on and your experience grows, you stop viewing life under a microscope.

You start to “zoom out” and look at the big picture.

And what you’ll find is that yeah – over time, your journey did look like a straight line, but definitely not a perfect one.

Just like everything else under and around the sun.


How to Give Yourself Permission to Fail

Fear of failure.

It’s one of the major causes of inaction, procrastination, the obsession with perfection, and a host of other issues.

People are afraid to fail.

If they fail, they think their self esteem might drop, they might feel humiliated, embarrassed, lose self confidence - the reasons for the fear are many.

But fear it no more because you’re going to learn how to rid of it by giving yourself permission to fail.

So how do you go about exactly doing that?

Realize this.

YOU ARE GOING TO FAIL.

It’s inevitable, BUT MORE IMPORTANTLY:

IT’S NATURAL.

I CANNOT EMPHASIZE THIS ENOUGH.

IT IS NATURAL FOR YOU TO FAIL.

I really hate to break it to you but you are NOT PERFECT.

Neither am I.

And since YOU, the SOURCE of all your actions is imperfect - it ONLY MAKES SENSE that your actions will in turn, BE IMPERFECT AS WELL.

It makes NO sense for you to expect your actions to be perfect, if the source from which they stem from, which is you in your entirety, is imperfect.

It makes no sense whatsoever.

Our actions HAVE TO BE IMPERFECT BECAUSE WE ARE IMPERFECT.

Really think about.

Really let that sink in.

Then feel all that weight get lifted off your shoulders.

Feel that chill run down your spine.

You’ve just taken one of the biggest steps you can in giving yourself permission to fail.

The second point I want to make is this.

It’s UNNATURAL to assume you’ll hit what you’re aiming for 100% the first time.

It’s unnatural to assume you can go DIRECTLY from point A to point B in a PURE, SINGLE, STRAIGHT LINE fashion with no mistakes represented as jagged edges or zig zags.

It’s unnatural.

Nothing is straight.

Nothing.

Things just appear straight – from afar.

You can find the straightest razor blade on the planet, but look at it under a microscope – it’s not straight.

Nothing in nature is straight.

Nothing in the universe is straight.

And neither will your efforts be.

You journey from point A to point B will not be straight.

It will be jagged.

It will zig zag.

It will go up and down.

And all that’s what helps you get to where you want to be.

You give yourself permission to fail, take some sort of action and fail.

You didn’t get to Point B from that one action.

And you’re not crushed at all because you expect it.

You don’t give up, curse yourself, beat yourself up over the failure.

It’s natural.

You are imperfect, therefore your actions are imperfect.

But you did something and you look at what happened as a result. You get the feedback and then you do something else based on that feedback.

You fail again.

But that’s ok.

It’s natural.

To be expected.

It’s as natural as you breathing.

You did something, failed, and you look at what happened as a result. You get that feedback and then you do the next step accordingly with respect to not just that feedback, but the feedback from the first failure too.

Rinse and repeat.

You will fail again and again and again as you should, and with each of those failures, you slowly gain information from the feedback that you BUILD UPON EXPONENTIALLY so you get closer and closer to Point B faster and faster.

The edges aren’t as jagged or zig zaggy anymore.

It’s beginning to smooth out.

But the journey will never be straight.

No journey ever is.

No plane, ship, car, bike, or tricycle ever travels in a straight line.

Ever.

The driver is ALWAYS constantly adjusting course.

And that’s how they all inevitably get from Point A to Point B.

Give yourself permission to fail by realizing that it’s natural for you to fail.

It’s as natural as you breathing.

You are imperfect, therefore your actions will be imperfect.

Realize also that it’s NOT natural for you to go from point A to point B in one swift straight line.

It’s natural for the journey to be all over the place at first, but with time, it will get smoother, as long as you course correct based on the feedback you get.

Things in the beginning will not look straight at all simply because you’re too close to it in the beginning. You notice everything, every little detail and mishap.

But as time goes on and your experience grows, you stop viewing life under a microscope.

You start to “zoom out” and look at the big picture.

And what you’ll find is that yeah – over time, your journey did look like a straight line, but definitely not a perfect one.

Just like everything else under and around the sun.


The Problem With 99.9% of All the Self Improvement Information Out There That You Just Can’t Put Your Finger On Until Now

There will come a time after your “self improvement honeymoon” when things just don’t seem to be the way they used to.

When you first started out on your self improvement journey, everything was fresh and exciting.

The books pumped you up. The tapes you listened to on your way to work pumped you up. The seminars you went to on the weekends really did a number on you.

The sky was the limit. The information was all out there. It was gold. You just had to learn it ALL to improve yourself and set and achieve goals.

But then something happened.

You discovered after a while that the books, tapes, seminars just didn’t cut it for you anymore.

You didn’t get that “high” anymore.

It’s as if you developed some kind of immunity to it because you got so used to it.

So you keep on looking for that next high, going deeper and deeper but seemingly going nowhere at the same time.

You read, read, read, looking for that next high to put you into action but can’t find it.

You need stronger and stronger stimuli but nothing happens.

Why?

Because you’ve read enough of those books to the point where you realize they all say the same things.

It’s all in front of you.

Persistence, focus, believe, achieve, set goals, write, etc., yet you can’t seem to make any headway with all that information.

All this information but no action.

Why?

You can’t put your finger on it.

There’s something there.

Something that’s holding you back.

You don’t know what it us, until now.

Here it is.

Finally.

Once and for all.

The problem with 99.9% of all the self improvement information out there is that it’s simply just a bunch of ideas.

THERE IS NO SYSTEM.

99.9% of all the self improvement information is IDEA BASED and it usually presents itself in this kind of format.

10 Qualities All Successful People Have in Common
The 24 Principles You Need to Master Success.
The Top 5 Characteristics of People Who Set and Achieve Goals.

0.1% of the information is SYSTEM Based.

And the great thing about SYSTEMS is that it TAKES ALL THOSE IDEAS AND PUTS THEM IN LOGICAL ORDER TO MAKE IT EASY FOR YOU TO TAKE ACTION AND APPLY THEM.

It’s when you put all those ideas in the right system that everything “clicks” into place and you no longer have to go search for your next high or feel the need to read every last book to find that missing idea because THERE IS NO MISSING IDEA.

You were just missing THE SYSTEM.

You have too many ideas and no system to make sense of all of it.

Think of it like this.

All your life, you thought you couldn’t build a house.

But one day, an inspirational speech makes you think you can. An inspirational book. A motivational speaker.

“Yes you can!” - they all proclaim to you.

So you read the books.

The books say you need x, y, z to build a house.

Concrete, nails, wood, hammers, drills, plans for the house, nuts, bolts, etc.

So you get all that but you want to make sure you have EVERYTHING.

So you read some more books and sure enough you found you’ve missed some things.

Pipes, paint, glass, etc.

And you repeat this until you’ve amassed pretty much all the materials you need.

Now it’s time to start building.

But you don’t know how.

You don’t know how to start.

To just do it.

To just take action and build the freaking house.

You have all these materials around you, but you just can’t get into action.

You can’t build the house.

So you go back to your books again, but all they’re telling you is you need x, y, z.

But you already know and have x, y, z.

And you’re stuck.

Can you see the correlation here?

All the books are telling you that you need to be focused, persistent, you need to believe, etc.

That’s great and all, but those ideas can only take you up to a certain point.

Beyond that, they’re of no use, UNTIL THEY CAN BE ARRANGED INTO A SYSTEM.

The materials you have to build the house are of no use, until they are arranged into a system.

A system like:

You get the architecture plans for the house.
You dig a hole for the foundation with bulldozers and shovels.
You pour the concrete with a concrete truck.
You let it dry.
You do the framing with the wood and nails you have.
You install the windows with the glass you have.
You do the roofing.
You do the electrical work.
You do the plumbing, the HVAC.
You insulate, put up drywall, paint the walls.
You do the carpet and flooring, etc., etc., etc.

Now granted some self improvement books do manage to put some ideas into a system, but not into the MAIN SYSTEM.

It’s a SUBSYSTEM like doing the roofing or the electrical work.

And moreover, people apply that subsystem, but in the wrong order of the MAIN SYSTEM.

A classic example is the idea of thinking big and the subsystem to do it.

It’s a great idea.

Think big. Sounds cool.

And here’s the system to do it:

Think of a huge goal that’s way out there. Shoot for the moon because if you miss, at least you’re among the stars is the phrase most commonly used to justify it.

Write it down. Visualize. Tell other people about it yada yada yada.

That’s the subsystem.

But the problem is they put it in the beginning of the main system.

I won’t go into detail as to why that subsystem should not be in the beginning of the main system of achieving goals as I’ve already covered it in a previous article entitled The Myth of Thinking Big.

There’s all these ideas, but no system.

And even if some books wise up and try to arrange ideas into a system, they create subsystems at best and put those subsystems in the wrong order of the main system.

This is the “thing” people are missing, the “thing” that they can’t quite put their finger on, but the “thing” they know is responsible for their lack of progress.

- Responsible for their constant reading but never applying.

- Responsible for their addiction to reading everything on self improvement.

- Responsible for their quest to find that missing “idea” that will do it all.

But therein lies the problem.

It’s not ONE idea.

The magic pill is not one idea.

It’s a SYSTEM.

A system that takes all the ideas and puts them all in the right order and makes it easy to take action and apply them all.

If you read my books, you’ll see they are NOT just about a collection of ideas.

Anybody in the world can do that.

It takes something else to get to the next level up and arrange them all into a system.

And it’s when you do that, that you transcend everything that’s out there.

It’s what I did with The Hidden Secret in Think and Grow Rich.

It took all of Hill’s ideas and PUT THEM INTO A SYSTEM:

The NATURAL Process of Goal Achievement.

Here’s an email I got from a reader who read it recently and applied what he learned to make great progress with it because he learned the SYSTEM - The Natural System, or Process of Goal Achievement.

“First I just wanted to say thanks for your site. You have inspired me more than most “gurus” out there. I love your style of writing and all your knowledge.

I love The Hidden Secret in Think and Grow, it really is pure genius Brian. I have read Think and Grow Rich 4 times and I could not find the secret. I found your book by accident while surfing the net. I bought it immediately because I was going through a dry spell in my personal development journey and I love Napoleon Hill’s work. So I thought your book would be a fresh take on it. The Hidden Secret in Think and Grow Rich gave me a huge, jolt of motivation and inspiration to get back on track and start a weight loss coaching business that I have been procrastinating on, and to be perfectly honest with you, have feared to start.

Your book connected me to your website which has helped me immensely! Your style of writing is what I’ve been searching for, and the articles you write, well, let’s just say you motivate and inspire more than Anthony Robbins and Joe Vitale on energy drinks. I now have a successful weight loss coaching business thanks to you, and I now am in the process of going online with it. That is the challenging part, but I will prevail.

Seriously, not to puff you up or anything, but you are an inspiration. My personal growth has soared since I read your book and articles. I look forward to more of your work as it helps me to better serve my clients.

Anyways, thank you for all your hard work. You are an inspiration to say the least.”

- Efrain E. Guerrero

It’s not enough to write about ideas.

The next level is SYSTEMS and that’s what makes all the difference in the world and that’s exactly what The Hidden Secret in Think and Grow Rich does.

It gives you the natural system, the natural process of goal achievement.

When you read about it, you’ll realize you’ve used it too to achieve past goals without even realizing it because it WAS the natural system in the first place.

When you have a system, it’s easier to start, to DO, to get things done, to grow and in Efrain’s case, to start and get to the point where he now has a successful weight loss coaching business that he had previously been procrastinating on and feared to start.

If there is no system, all you’re left is a bunch of materials and tools around you.

And you can’t build anything.

It’s the case of many who read but never apply.

The tools are out there. They just can’t seem to pick them up and use them to build something tangible.

Because they lack the system.

It’s why people get stuck, always read think looking for that one secret idea that they can just focus on.

That one secret idea for some might be “positive thinking”m but we all know just by thinking positive nothing will happen.

You can do it till the day you die – nothing will happen.

It’s an IDEA, one that’s useful, but only one that is useful WITHIN a SYSTEM among many other ideas, carefully arranged and put in the right order that makes sense and makes it easy for the reader to take action and apply.

It’s no wonder why so many people who get into self improvement fall into that trap of always reading, never applying, looking for that secret idea that will pump them up, that will unlock it ALL.

It’s not the idea they should be looking for because it doesn’t even exist.

It’s the SYSTEM they should’ve been looking for in the first place.


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